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5 HOLIDAY-WELLNESS TIPS | for a #StrEss #Free SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVOR

11/21/2018

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​“Take a Deep Breath. Get Present in the Moment and Ask Yourself, What is Important at this Very Second”-Greg Mckeown

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​The way I’ve always had seem to recall during the holiday season is that there are only two avenues around this time of year that a sexual abuse survivor would consider to promote wellness and remain stress-free.

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1.) Proceed to all your holiday functions ill prepared as a guest, because no one has seen your darling face for a while anyways.


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2.) Steer far away from unnecessary triggers by following my 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a #Stress #Free Sexual Abuse Survivor!  
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My​ 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a #Stress #Free Sexual Abuse Survivor is a way for you to arrive at those customary gatherings with confidence amongst family and friends. You will be visibly radiant, stronger in character, and a perseverance that one or more persons can gain a sense of balance from.
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​My guidance during the holiday season is for you to only give your energy to those who you feel are supportive of you. While at the same time, I understand that this approach may not always be the “right” solution for the holidays like the ones that you can just readily ignore! 

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AWAY NEGATIVE VIBES!


​I Develop a Plan   ​

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​As a sexual abuse survivor, you will need to empower yourself and initiate a plan of action before the holiday season begins to roll around again. Please, do not show up like, "I’m here and just about done with this sad show of people already"! Instead, develop a plan for your visits, making it easier for you to be with the ones that you love.

A plan that you can easily develop for your traditional get-togethers should be ideas such as an arrival time, how to respond to testy inquisitors, exit strategies, or how to be cordial with certain people is THE standard blueprint to remain stress-free and confident. Start with a plan and stick to it, no matter what! One successful method to start with is your intention and focus on your feelings and ways to keep calm in a stress-free environment.
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Meditation is a good source for grounding intention. It refers to a family of self-regulation practices that focus on training attention and awareness in order to bring mental processes under greater voluntary control and thereby foster general mental well-being and development in specific capacities such as calm, clarity, and concentration  (Roger Walsh & Shauna L. Shapiro 2006).”  I like to practice a form of meditation known as Breath Therapy to bridge my intentions and refocus back to myself.


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    II GET SUPPORT
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​My second Holiday-Wellness Tip for a Sexual Abuse Survivor is surprisingly one that is the most forgotten about. At the major or minor holiday event with relatives or friends, ensure to establish support before you attend! Trust a holiday attendee that you can speak to directly about your level of comfort in regards to whichever festivity that you guys will be a part of.


​It could be your spouse, a close relative, or friend that you can confide in. Use this time to be realistic about your situation and brutally honest about how you feel. As a sexual abuse survivor, a long and triggering explanation is unnecessary, and furthermore, it isn't owed to anyone. So keep your mission short and precise. What’s more important here is to receive support, just in case the exit door becomes your haven during the holiday season​. 
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                                                       III    DO NOT ENGAGE in SENSITIVE TOPICS


​Oh boy, there are a lot of delicate topics to go around for more than two lifetimes, but for this holiday season, do yourself a favor and take this opportunity for the perfect time to completely zone out. For the present concerns of today, sensitive topics like the “me too” movement or the never-ending sight of the zillion sex scandals should be avoided as a sexual abuse survivor at this time..

​All-in-all, these subjects on television can easily lead to unavoidable triggers. Besides the mere fact that a stranger’s sexual abuse case is easily discussed out in the open during the holidays, while potentially amid a sexual victim is being insensitive to others. Do not engage in sensitive topics!
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As a sexual abuse survivor, always focus on shifting your awareness from sensitive topics to a form of positivity because the holiday season is for cheer and a year of closure.



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​​IV FOCUS on GRATITUDE


After all, the reason why we come together for the holidays is to celebrate one another. This may be difficult as a sexual abuse survivor while in the presence of unwelcoming personalities. Nevertheless, remind yourself why you have chosen to be present amongst friends and family during this time.

A good point of reference to remember is your internal guidance, which brought you to the event in the first place. Your inner guidance is the strong-willed force that is backed up with the courage to follow through. We refer to this high gravitational space as gratitude, allowing us to be with friends and family again in the physical sense, such as for the holiday season.



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​Never hold your breath, but always remember to breathe through all circumstances during holiday traditions. Sometimes being in crowded areas as a sexual abuse survivor, you may need a break from visiting with family and friends, and this is okay. Make an excuse to use the restroom or just step away for a little while. 


Go outside and breathe slowly through your nose and out through your mouth. Take this moment to give thanks for your ability to do this. No matter the excuse, always listen to your body. During the holiday gathering, if you are experiencing a sensation of overwhelming feelings, always remember that slow and deep breathing is a technique to alleviate stressors. 



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So, you do not have to talk the night away at holiday visits anymore, but instead, always remain in charge with My 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a Sexual Abuse Survivor:  (1)an unbreakable plan, (2)back up support, (3)disengaging sensitive topics, (4)focus on gratitude, and (5) controlled breathing are destined to promote balance and well-being.


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☤Your Reality in Balance begins at the very moment when work is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! Balance & Peace...

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About the Author:
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Shaw Nee Janelle is a
  • Certified Holistic Health Practitioner
  •  Health & Wellness Consultant
  • Spiritual Healer
  •  Author of  “The Traditional Modalities for Healing”
  •  Blogger 
  •  Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com.
In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, and Sexual Abuse Awareness. She also loves to travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.

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"The meeting of meditative disciplines and western psychology: A mutually enriching dialogue"
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5/22/2019 06:22:03 pm

I guess this is what I should be doing everyday. If I am feeling uncomfortable, I will just write about it and pray for things to get better. I keep asking myself can it really make things better? Well maybe not but atleast I am able to pour energy into something else other than crying. I am so tired of crying. So tired my tears have completely dried out already. I like this feeling better. It's better than still having energy to be capable of running thoughts. Right now I can't even lift a finger.

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5/23/2019 10:11:11 pm

I understand what you mean, and for a long time I would become more upset with myself for crying often. So, when I was literally exhausted from these emotions, I started to actively sought out how to continue my healing through support groups.

A great resource --->How to Remove Boundaries | Pathing New Ways to Ask for Help--->http://www.realitynconsciousness.com/journal/how-to-remove-boundaries-pathing-new-ways-to-ask-for-help6002700

You are doing great!

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