BLOG
|
By ShawNee Janelle
|
Wellness
HEALTH
Reality in Balance
"A company is only as good as the people it keeps." -Mary Kay Ash 
spirit | ˈspirit | noun
(Latin) Spiritus= Breath That which animates the body; the immaterial part of the being; which is the seat of emotions and character; Singularly connected to all things and the greater infinite all
Nevertheless, there will be moments where we don’t have a choice but face to the things and people that could make us feel uncomfortable in life. Negative energy is a direct expression of a person’s emotional state based on their inner consciousness and how they perceive life, themselves, and those around them. These forms of low energy are inevitable concepts that we cannot avoid through life. But- Oftentimes, people can still try to test your nerves, and impose too much of their static energy, or is just overwhelming to you. Then you might wonder why you feel so tired when you were just doing fine before.
Some of us are sensitive to the subtle energy fields that are all around us, including their specific characteristics that engage us. Sometimes it’s the environment that is unclean and feeding off of the already low spirited person living there, and now they can be easily manipulated to vampire other people. You can see what I’m talking about in most horror films where a negative source feeds from an already depressed and fearful individual for its energy every time.
|
|
You want to eventually minimize your time with negative people because your physical health relies on it! Research shows us that being exposed to negative people peels away the neurons in the hippocampus region, which is the part of your brain responsible for problem-solving. Ideally, this means that negative people, places, or things have detrimental effects that will rot your brain over time.
|
|
Stay Clear Away From…
are programmed with a pessimistic outlook for themselves and life
- Downer type people- unlucky, depressed, downer Debbies, who enjoys
are programmed with a pessimistic outlook for themselves and life
- Distractors- people in all varieties; gossip, attention- whores, cause to chaos, destruction, and confusion
- Playing-the-Victim type people- master manipulators, finger pointers, enjoy making others feel invaluable to them- playing-the-victim types are unbalanced on many levels in their reality and divine purpose
- Know-it-All type people- they will not allow the past to remain in the past, unable to receive any new information, difficulty staying in the present, thrive on the past, have devolved perceptions based on false precepts from the past.
- Drama queens- people who love conflict
You might witness most of these negative personality traits in friends, family members, lovers, relatives, partners, or more. This information does not mean for you to completely disengage with these types of individuals right away, but to protect your spirit from becoming conflicted with lowered energy. Take as much time necessary to rebalance yourself in-between visits and always adhere to set boundaries, but more importantly, know when to walk away from these types of people.
|
Self-actualization is the understanding of a person’s potential and is considered as a drive or need that is present inside of everyone. It’s when you can look inside of yourself to find a direction for balance so that negativity doesn't interfere with your day. |
You cannot self-actualize anything without a sense of internal and external harmony. Your emotional, mental, and spiritual characteristics form an energy field around the body, known as the aura. AND- Negative frequencies can affect your spirit more easily if the body’s aura field is disharmonized or underactive in some way.
In the way that you observe and deal with negative frequencies is filtered through the energy centers surrounding the body. To become more familiarized with the body’s energetic fields known as your aura is important because it’s the major conduit for self-actualization. You can learn more about this topic in my chakra balancing blogs to get you up speed.
In the way that you observe and deal with negative frequencies is filtered through the energy centers surrounding the body. To become more familiarized with the body’s energetic fields known as your aura is important because it’s the major conduit for self-actualization. You can learn more about this topic in my chakra balancing blogs to get you up speed.
In the meantime, a good routine practice, to begin with, is to visualize while bathing/showering that you are clearing your aura just as well as cleaning your body. You might have to repeat this method more than once to receive results because consistency is the key to life.
PROTECTION TIP #3
Staying
Focused….Instead
of
Remaining Positive
I've found for myself at times that repeating an affirmation to stay positive through the day wasn’t working. I would say it, feel it, and try to express it out into the world. The idea behind the expression felt too fake to me, and that I was battling to remain positive with just myself anyways. It wasn't that I was always in a negative space, but with work, socializing, or bypassing other people everyday, it would be clear that remaining positive would soon diminish.
I’m sure that you guys can relate to what I’m trying to say. Like, when you're having a good day, and out of nowhere, some asshole unexpectedly ruins it. No matter how hard you try to remain positive after a negative interaction, it just doesn’t sit well with you, and most of the day you find yourself unconsciously drifting back to that past, negative encounter.
|
This is because of the old entanglement of good versus bad, up versus down, black versus white where things are seen as opposites to us, but in reality, they are forms of one in the same energy source, (on many levels, of course). In other words, there’s no point in you getting bent out of shape allowing people to upset you. Instead, stay headstrong towards your goal at that time, and not the distraction. Change the language and how you view the things that come your way. I’m not sorry to say this, but guys, the notion to stay positive is a farce itself and is a destination to failure. But when you’re focused with a purpose, negative interactions cannot phase you at all! |
|
|
☤Your Reality In Balance begins at the very moment as the will is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! I’ll catch you guys next time. Be well and Heal in Peace, peace. |
|
Categories
All
Affirmations For A Sexual Abuse Survivor
Afrikan Spirituality
Essential Oil Profiles
Healers
Healing In The Now
Holistic Health Tips
Metaphysics
Sexual Abuse Awareness
Tarot Cards
Therapeutic Self Care
Archives
July 2020
May 2020
March 2020
January 2020
December 2019
November 2019
October 2019
September 2019
August 2019
July 2019
June 2019
May 2019
April 2019
March 2019
February 2019
January 2019
December 2018
November 2018
October 2018
September 2018
August 2018
July 2018
June 2018
May 2018
April 2018
March 2018
February 2018
January 2018
December 2017
November 2017
August 2017
July 2017
0 Comments
blockage
[ˈbläkij]
NOUN
blockages (plural noun)
- an obstruction which makes movement or flow difficult or impossible.
You might not know this yet guys, but even the most self-assured, confident, and successful individuals have had to learn how to grow from their past and move about unproudly within them. At some point, they were determined to heal and restore the blockages that were interfering with seeing into their personal growth. In turn, their likelihood of joyous expectations from the fulfilling relationships around them will be forever sustainable due to their course of action.
Hello everyone, and welcome to Reality in Balance. My name is ShawNee Janelle. I am a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner/Consultant. You can find additional information about us at www.RealityinBalance.com, Twitter- Reality@Balance_1111, or IG- shawneejanelle. One of my goals here is to educate and motivate individuals to work towards a balanced lifestyle by utilizing the basic tools in Holistic Health as natural healing modalities. So in this way, you can always discover a path to operate on from your highest-self by lifting your spirits.
At Reality in Balance, our area of focus is emotional intelligence and therapeutic self-care, because we want to see you function in life with the highest regard for yourself. In this blog-podcast, we’ll talk about why it may be difficult for you to ask for help and ways to gain a better perspective on the vulnerable possibilities that can help you remove internal blockages.
Why Do I Need to be
Vulnerable with Other People?
You and I grow and live together here as a collective on so many levels in life. Connecting with people that are dear to us is an exchange of love which allows you and I to feel alive every day, and to know that someone else cares about us can make life a bit easier.
You need to be vulnerable in your relationships to feel a sense of safety, and to be honest, to feel loved. This can be on a spousal level, in a friendship, or with family. Well-seeded connections implement a sense of security for welcomed spaces such as advice and support. With their kindness it can be more comfortable for you to achieve life goals through your personal growth and development.
So, do you know which areas that insert insecurities, like trust issues inside of your relationships? In this blog-podcast, we can discover the best solutions for you to begin removing blockages and experience a balanced lifestyle through personal growth and development.
Fear of Being a Burden/BLOCKAGE
Do you worry that when you decide to ask a person to help you, the task will be seen as a heavy load? Unfortunately, this can mean that there are internalized thoughts that you are not worthy of help. A learned behavior such as this is to deflect your problem and assume asking will only burden the person. This is only true if you’re choosing the wrong type of person to ask for help in the first place.
I want to express to you guys that most individuals who are secure in their lives emotionally, financially, mentally, etc., love to help other people. So, know that you are not a burden to those who are able to support you. With the proper education, you can unlearn unbalanced behaviors that lead to internal and external life blockages.
It’s important to know that feeling like a burden is a false sense in a mindset that is unbalanced. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Hendriksen at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders, the most primitive part of the brain, the same reward pathway activated by food and sex- lights up in response to altruistic giving. Meaning, just like when you're enjoying your favorite foods or experiencing a sense of pleasure, these same feel-good hormones are activated in a person when they are able to help you.
If you believe that this is not the case for you, and the helper is over-burdened in their personal lives or are too busy, then please, save your time and energy of asking them for any favors, and find someone else who can help you. You will soon discover for yourself that helping other people brings strength to your immediate social ties, but it also allows the helpers to feel good about themselves too. So, try to remember that those who are stable in their lives love to give back and willingly want to guide others to do their best in life, just like you.
Past Mistakes/BLOCKAGE
Depending on your awareness of the things that are occurring and meaningful to you in opposite effects, like feeling happy-sad or good-bad, can seem general in life's cycle that is always pointing out its high and low points in retrospect. Due to life’s fluctuations, they'll be lessons for you to observe and take action on. In the recurrence time frame, whether it be months, years, days, and so on, are all opportunities for your personal growth and development.
But. When more than enough negative experiences are piled-up and cause friction, it’s common to develop a fear of admitting to these mistakes. It may be stressful to address concerns in your personal growth and the things that can help you move forward. A change in social status, economical plans, or issues within personal relationships cannot be done alone, and why would you want to? Sometimes control isn’t always the best approach, and things can quickly go wrong. Think of it like this- you cannot stop a wave out in the ocean, but you can surf it. And it's always better to do it with someone else anyway.
- See your immediate problem as an object that is separate from you and then transform it.
- Visualize yourself teaming-up with another person to tackle the object- This is called a unified detachment where the problem is no longer “me” or “I”, but a defiant “it” instead.
- See the problem on a chair, being zapped with armor, or anyplace outside of you adjoined with someone else that is helping.
Fear of "Appearing Weak"/BLOCKAGE
Also known as the “needy appearance” or feeling incompetent, a fear of appearing weak around others instead of receiving their help is another internal/external blockage in your personal growth. Remind yourself that the ability to have someone to ask for assistance means that you are being supported and connected.
To confront your fear of appearing less valuable, try to match your request with someone considered an expert. Say, for instance, if you were having car troubles, you’d more than likely seek out a professional mechanic for their help instead of a person without car mechanical skills, or if you're experiencing financial difficulties, you’d be more inclined to speak with an individual who is balanced with their finances and not the other way around. This is why there are experts and professionals here to help you with your specific needs.
The keywords are professional and expert because your chances are, simply put, better with persons’ that are reliable and willing to provide specific information for you. Another method to consider is to ask for help as if you’re inquiring about expert opinions or instructions. In this way, you don't sound like you're begging for what you need. For instance,
- change the tone of your language when asking a question.
- Ask your helper if you could pick their brain for a minute, instead of randomly blurting out things.
- Ask if you could get their perspective on something important to you is a good segway to this type of conversation.
- It’s okay to mention that it’s been a long time since you’ve done something like this before, and be extremely specific and define what areas that you need their help in.
A CLEAR PATH
Make a list. The act of writing lists prompts you to tune in to what’s really needed versus the things that you just want, enforcing your true intent. ☤Your Reality In Balance begins at the very moment as will is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! I’ll catch you guys next time. Be well and Heal in Peace, peace....
Make a list. The act of writing lists prompts you to tune in to what’s really needed versus the things that you just want, enforcing your true intent. ☤Your Reality In Balance begins at the very moment as will is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! I’ll catch you guys next time. Be well and Heal in Peace, peace....
Categories
All
Affirmations For A Sexual Abuse Survivor
Afrikan Spirituality
Essential Oil Profiles
Healers
Healing In The Now
Holistic Health Tips
Metaphysics
Sexual Abuse Awareness
Tarot Cards
Therapeutic Self Care
Archives
July 2020
May 2020
March 2020
January 2020
December 2019
November 2019
October 2019
September 2019
August 2019
July 2019
June 2019
May 2019
April 2019
March 2019
February 2019
January 2019
December 2018
November 2018
October 2018
September 2018
August 2018
July 2018
June 2018
May 2018
April 2018
March 2018
February 2018
January 2018
December 2017
November 2017
August 2017
July 2017
"You were born with the right to be happy. You were born with the right to love, to enjoy, and to share your love. You are alive, so take your life and enjoy it. Don't resist life passing through you, because that is God passing through you. Just your existence proves the existence of God. Your existence proves the existence of life and energy." -Ruiz
~Reality in Consciousness
HOLISTIC HEALTH CONSULTATIONS
RECHARGE AND LIVE IN 2020
We all know too well that abuse stemmed from traumatic events happen to us, friends, neighbors, relatives, and so on. It feels distressing, intolerable, and if left untreated, abuse can sustain negative lifestyle attachments and poor coping skills. This is why Healing from Abuse is important. You do not have to carry-on old and negative attachments formed from abuse. Instead, you can develop a new sense of growth that will be greater than you've ever imagined through Therapeutic, Self-Care practices.
THERAPEUTIC, SELF-CARE IN 2020The process of healing begins when primal self-care overrules all. The purpose of a Self-Care regimen is for your entire body to rest and rejuvenate comfortably over an extension of time to promote healing. Take a day off, sit quietly for a few minutes, and disconnect for a little while. Rather if you prefer to stay at home to receive a form of treatment or visit a therapeutic Practitioner, here are the most utilized healing practices for abuse. |
|
GROUNDING IN 2020
Including many, many more... Massage, Acupressure, Acupuncture, Yoga, Exercise, Vitamins/Supplements, Music/Instrument, Garden, Travel, New Language, Study/Culture, Reading, Art, Hydrotherapy, Pet/Companion, Herbs, Healthy Diet, Meet New People, Essential oils, Aromatherapy, Crystals, Crystal Therapy, and Affirmations.
We all have to be proactive on a healing journey and do our best every day, or cycles will become repeated, making them more challenging to break. Harness one or more therapeutic and self-care technique not just for today, but for roads up ahead of time.
☤Your Reality in Consciousness begins at the very moment when work is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! Balance & Peace..
ARCHIVES
All
|
About the Author: ShawNee Janelle is a
|
“A color is as strong as the impression it creates.”
Ivan Albright
~Reality in Balance
Written by:
ShawNee Janelle, B.S.
Certified Holistic Health Consultant & Social Scientist
ShawNee Janelle, B.S.
Certified Holistic Health Consultant & Social Scientist
|
At all times and in every environment, our atmosphere is vibrant and alive with a brilliant spectrum of varied colors. Historically known as Chromotherapy, color therapy is a targeted therapeutic healing practice that explores how distinct visible light wavelengths consciously affect our physical bodies. By intentionally utilizing these vibrational frequencies, we can actively permeate a profound level of somatic balance, effectively regulating mood, grounding the nervous system, and supporting overall systemic health.
Through their specific electromagnetic properties (wavelengths and frequencies), colors exert a powerful, continuous influence over our biology, regardless of whether we are consciously aware of the input. Every distinct hue variation possesses a unique vibrational frequency. While we traditionally associate frequencies with audible sound waves, nature has engineered a highly specialized instrument for us to perceive and translate these faster, visual light waves: our eyes. When we look at color, we are interacting directly with the energetic blueprint of our environment.
At all times and in every environment, our atmosphere is vibrant and alive with a brilliant spectrum of varied colors. Historically known as Chromotherapy, color therapy is a targeted therapeutic healing practice that explores how distinct visible light wavelengths consciously affect our physical bodies. By intentionally utilizing these vibrational frequencies, we can actively permeate a profound level of somatic balance, effectively regulating mood, grounding the nervous system, and supporting overall systemic health.
Through their specific electromagnetic properties (wavelengths and frequencies), colors exert a powerful, continuous influence over our biology, regardless of whether we are consciously aware of the input. Every distinct hue variation possesses a unique vibrational frequency. While we traditionally associate frequencies with audible sound waves, nature has engineered a highly specialized instrument for us to perceive and translate these faster, visual light waves: our eyes. When we look at color, we are interacting directly with the energetic blueprint of our environment.
| You hold the absolute authority to consciously shift and influence the vibrational frequencies you absorb. You can deliberately program your personal environment and subconscious mind by integrating these primary chromotherapeutic tools into your daily framework:
|
| We can readily observe the natural occurrence of color through its purest form of atmospheric expression: the rainbow. When a single beam of pure white light passes through a crystal prism, it naturally refracts into the seven distinct bands of the visible light spectrum. This beautiful phenomenon serves as a physical reminder that what appears uniform on the surface is actually composed of multiple complex, powerful frequencies working in perfect unison. Our ancient ancestors intimately understood this quantum reality, actively utilizing color as a primary modality for therapeutic healing. In historical practices, individuals seeking recovery were brought into beautifully designed, dedicated rooms where the windows were covered with vibrant, naturally dyed fabrics—such as blue, orange, green, and red. By filtering the sun's natural energy through these targeted textiles, practitioners isolated specific biological frequencies to address distinct physiological and psychological ailments, restoring structural equilibrium from the outside in. It is no coincidence that throughout history and into modern times, chapels, temples, cathedrals, and private sacred architectures have integrated stained-glass windows to direct incoming sunlight. Beyond pure aesthetic mastery, the purposeful refraction of light through colored glass was designed to alter the environmental energy of the space. By stepping into these intentionally engineered light environments, the body reduces survival responses, promoting a deep and restorative frequency shift throughout our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. |  |
|
Ready to build your personalized light therapy ritual? Unlock my full, masterclass guide featuring specific color protocols, emotional integration techniques, and chakra alignments on Substack.
Redefine Your Reality
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| | |
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
 Reality in Balance: Simplicity, Focus & Standing in Your Power | |
Power Potencia Anointing Oil (4 Dram)
Premium Metaphysical & Ritual Blend
Elevate your personal rituals and command your space with Power Potencia Oil. Masterfully formulated for mature, conscious individuals, this intentional blend is designed to amplify your inner strength, support deep focus, and ground your daily practices. Whether you are anchoring your mindset for a day of creative manifestation or setting firm boundaries during introspection, this oil serves as a powerful tool for personal alignment.
Premium Metaphysical & Ritual Blend
Elevate your personal rituals and command your space with Power Potencia Oil. Masterfully formulated for mature, conscious individuals, this intentional blend is designed to amplify your inner strength, support deep focus, and ground your daily practices. Whether you are anchoring your mindset for a day of creative manifestation or setting firm boundaries during introspection, this oil serves as a powerful tool for personal alignment.
About the Author:
ShawNee Janelle, B.S. is a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, Social Scientist, and Author of “The Traditional Modalities for Healing” and “Words of Power Affirmations” Vol 1-3. As the founder of Reality in Balance, a survivor-to-thriver, and an independent researcher, she is dedicated to helping others redefine balance.
12/30/2018
The Neurobiology of Trauma: Can We Rewire Traumatic Memories? (Part 1) | Reality in Balance
Read Now
“Memories influence every action and pattern of action you undertake.”
Dr. Daniel Amen
~Reality In Balance
The Somatic Archive: Are Traumatic Memories a Destructive Disease?
Have you ever noticed how vividly a distressing memory stands out compared to a joyful one? This imbalance is driven by the immediate neurological interaction between intense emotional distress and the memory storage systems of the brain. When an event is perceived as a threat or a deeply negative experience, the brain flags it as essential data for future survival, anchoring it deep within our cognitive patterns.
|
These internal memory archives establish the sequence of habits, automatic associations, and behavioral systems that construct both our internal emotional landscape and the external environments we cultivate today. Even a minor sensory trigger can instantly activate an unreleased traumatic memory, unleashing a wave of restrictive preconceptions, emotional instability, and protective behaviors—even for individuals actively engaging in traditional therapeutic support.
It’s important to understand that our brains are naturally wired to learn more from negative experiences than from positive ones. Hello, everyone! I’m ShawNee Janelle, B.S., a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner and Consultant in Health and Wellness. My mission is to assist individuals in becoming more aware of their higher selves through the healing process using holistic health modalities. If you’re interested in learning more about holistic health and healing, feel free to visit my website at realityinbalance.com. The Negativity Bias: Why Painful Experiences EndureHave you ever noticed how vividly a distressing memory stands out compared to a joyful one? This imbalance is driven by the immediate neurological interaction between intense emotional distress and the memory storage systems of the brain. When an event is perceived as a threat or a deeply negative experience, the brain flags it as essential data for future survival, anchoring it deep within our cognitive patterns.
These internal memory archives establish the sequence of habits, automatic associations, and behavioral systems that construct both our internal emotional landscape and the external environments we cultivate today. Even a minor sensory trigger can instantly activate an unreleased traumatic memory, unleashing a wave of restrictive preconceptions, emotional instability, and protective behaviors—even for individuals actively engaging in traditional therapeutic support. |
|
Somatic Markers: Recognizing Chronic Nervous System DistressFor survivors navigating prolonged anxiety, severe depression, post-traumatic stress, or specific phobias, the somatic burden of stored memories frequently manifests as distinct physiological changes. When the mind holds unreleased trauma, the nervous system remains stuck in a persistent state of low-grade alert.
Clues that the body is actively processing hidden traumatic memory patterns include:
While the endurance of traumatic memories can feel permanent, recent neuroimaging studies reveal a profound vulnerability in how the brain retains past information. Every single time a memory is recalled, it undergoes a temporary phase of neuroplastic flexibility known as memory reconsolidation.
When a memory is triggered, it is not merely opened like a static text file; it is actively reconstructed by the brain. During this brief window, the memory becomes highly malleable and sensitive to change. This means that a memory is not permanent—it adapts based on the emotional framework you bring to it during the moment of recall. Altering these deeply ingrained neural loops requires focused intent, systemic tracking, and a conscious choice to introduce fresh, high-vibrational emotional frequencies during the recall process. True healing is an intentional, internal process of resetting your relationship with your past self. |
As Albert Einstein historically reminded his peers: "Time and space are modes by what we think, and not conditions in which we live."
Reclaiming Authority: Moving into Part 2
Neurobiological data clarifies that encoding and evaluating negative memories heavily relies on the precise brain structures that process our emotional responses. By understanding how the mind registers and filters these severe stressors, you can reclaim systemic authority over your cognitive architecture and strip power away from unwelcome past experiences.
This article marks the beginning of our comprehensive, three-part scientific series dedicated to self-directed neurological restoration. In Part 2, we will step inside the brain's internal threat center to explore the exact anatomy and mechanics behind the human fear response.
Is it truly possible to overwrite the emotional weight of a traumatic memory? I would love to hear your professional insights and personal reflections in our community space below.
Be well, and heal in peace.
~ Reality in Balance
This article marks the beginning of our comprehensive, three-part scientific series dedicated to self-directed neurological restoration. In Part 2, we will step inside the brain's internal threat center to explore the exact anatomy and mechanics behind the human fear response.
Is it truly possible to overwrite the emotional weight of a traumatic memory? I would love to hear your professional insights and personal reflections in our community space below.
Be well, and heal in peace.
~ Reality in Balance
|
Continue your somatic healing, boundary alignment, and lifestyle detoxification with these essential resources:
|
|
Authoritative Source List
- Good Therapy Directory (goodtherapy.org)
- Medical News Today Research (medicalnewstoday.com)
- American Psychological Association (apa.org)
- Science Alert Neuroimaging Archives (sciencealert.org)
- Consciousness Lifestyle Magazine (consciousnesslifestylemag.com)
Your Reality in Balance
starts the instant you express your will through your intention to evolve and enhance yourself, contributing to the betterment of humanity! Until next time, take care and heal in peace.
starts the instant you express your will through your intention to evolve and enhance yourself, contributing to the betterment of humanity! Until next time, take care and heal in peace.
Written by:
ShawNee Janelle
ShawNee Janelle
| |
| |