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❖ PROTECT CHILDREN | from Sexual Abuse
❖ According to adult retrospective studies, 1 and 4 women and 1 and 6 men were sexually abused before the age of 18 years old. This statement means there are more than 42 million adult survivors of child sexual abuse in the U.S.
73% of child victims do not tell anyone about the abuse for at least one year. 45% do not tell anyone for at least five years. Some may never disclose- children of every gender, race, ethnicity, background, social-economic status, and family structure are at risk. No child is immune. ❖ TIPS to PROTECT CHILDREN | from Sexual Abuse
➠ Teach your child about boundaries. Let your child know that no one has the right to touch them or make them feel uncomfortable- this includes hugs from grandparents or even tickling from mom or dad. It is crucial to let your child know that their body is their own. Just as importantly, remind your child that they do not have the right to touch someone else if that person does not want to be touched.
➠ Teach your child how to talk about their bodies. From an early age, teach your child the names of their body parts. Teaching a child these words gives them the ability to come to you when something is wrong. Learn more about ➠talking to children about sexual assault. ➠ Be available. Set time aside to spend with your child where they have your undivided attention. Let your child know that they can come to you if they have questions or if someone is talking to them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. If they do come to you with questions or concerns, follow through on your word and take the time necessary to talk.
➠ Let them know they won’t get in trouble. Many perpetrators use secret-keeping or threats as a way of keeping children quiet about the abuse. Encourage children frequently that they will not get in trouble for talking to you, no matter what they need to say. When they do come to you, follow through on this promise and avoid punishing them for speaking up. ➠ Give them the chance to raise new topics. Sometimes asking direct questions like, “Did you have fun?” and “Was it a good time?” won’t give you the answers you need. Give your child a chance to bring up their concerns or ideas by asking open-ended questions like “Is there anything else you wanted to talk about?”
❖Perhaps the most tragic is the hurt and disappointment caused by intimate relationships with family members or friends, someone known and trusted involving abuse.
Too often, adults, we retreat from dysfunctional relationships or deny the true depths of the problem to smooth suppressed wounds. Yet, we must take responsibility now as adults to understand the lessons of our relationships with ourselves first. Emotional or energetic harm or violation from a person you trust, love, and respect can create deep resentment, anger, or rage that require committed healing work. We are responsible for protecting all children from sexual abuse before it begins. 1 and 4 women and 1 and 6 men were sexually abused before the age of 18 years old.
2021 Tips | Protecting Children
5 Tips to Protect Children | from All forms of Abuse
Protect Yourself!
Sources: "How Can I Protect My Child From Sexual Assault?" "Sacred Woman", by Queen Afua R.A.I.N.N
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Neurobiology of the Visual Method
You can actively rewrite your brain pathways for joy, fulfillment, and systemic healing by utilizing the Visual Release Meditation method. When an intense emotion is repeatedly felt, the body builds a somatic tolerance to that distress, accepting it as an internal baseline. With intentional guidance, you can train your consciousness to interact with past memories completely free from the physiological distress of the original traumatic experience.
Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI) demonstrates that our neural connections become highly malleable during active recall before resetting. This means that a memory can gently shift and recontextualize each time it is consciously brought into a safe space, resetting with a newly integrated meaning. Neuroscientific studies show that removing the disruptive, traumatic aspect of a memory involves consciously creating a new, safe mental association to the brain's existing sensory cues.
Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI) demonstrates that our neural connections become highly malleable during active recall before resetting. This means that a memory can gently shift and recontextualize each time it is consciously brought into a safe space, resetting with a newly integrated meaning. Neuroscientific studies show that removing the disruptive, traumatic aspect of a memory involves consciously creating a new, safe mental association to the brain's existing sensory cues.
   | Step-by-Step Visual Release Protocol To intentionally execute this somatic release, move through the following meditation protocol with focused breath work:
Conclude the Visual Release Meditation feeling deeply internalized, centered in self-control, self-awareness, radical self-love, and prosperity. Repeat this protocol consistently to continually reshape the neural pathways. |
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Intro
Many individuals encounter triggered memories they would rather not confront, or they identify certain environmental cues that may evoke past traumas. If these memories remain unaddressed, they can act as underlying biological catalysts for chronic systemic imbalances, which may include clinical depression, acute anxiety, and debilitating phobias..
Our internal mental context—the precise psychological lens through which an individual perceives and processes an event—directly dictates how the mind catalogs and archives the memories of that occurrence. In Part II of this series, we decode the fundamental neurobiological order of operations within the brain’s memory centers when subjected to heightened emotional distress. By understanding these neurological loops, we gain the immediate power to consciously intervene and reverse these conditions today.
Our internal mental context—the precise psychological lens through which an individual perceives and processes an event—directly dictates how the mind catalogs and archives the memories of that occurrence. In Part II of this series, we decode the fundamental neurobiological order of operations within the brain’s memory centers when subjected to heightened emotional distress. By understanding these neurological loops, we gain the immediate power to consciously intervene and reverse these conditions today.
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The Cognitive Order of Operations
| More recently, western clinical science has validated what indigenous wellness models have long understood: the human mind possesses an inherent, biological mechanism capable of intentionally disrupting triggered memories. Suppressing a traumatic recall loop relies on a deliberate down-regulation, effectively shutting down the specific neural pathways involved in involuntary recollection.  | To execute this course correction, we must understand the precise sequence of how our brain processes fearful stimuli:
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The Trajectory of Absolute Forgetting
| Advanced neuroimaging has successfully isolated the exact brain systems responsible for absolute cognitive forgetting, proving that it is entirely possible to deliberately block traumatic memories from entering your conscious awareness.  | When a trigger arises, the hippocampus signals the ventromedial prefrontal cortex regarding changed, safe environmental conditions. This intentional activation effectively inhibits overactive neuronal firing in the amygdala, down-regulating the conditioned fear response and restoring systemic biological peace. |
Reversing the Trauma Loop
Completely eliminating the traumatic context of a memory requires the conscious manufacturing of newer, healthier mental connections to those same sensory cues. When we master the mechanics of memory reconsolidation, we transition from passive survivors into active navigators of our own psychological evolution.
You can dismantle this cycle of traumatic feelings through consistent, targeted daily routines. Once your body has inhabited an emotion for a prolonged period, it builds a somatic tolerance to that distress, accepting it as your structural "normal." Reclaiming your equilibrium requires disrupting that tolerance.
Memories are not static archives; they behave much like glass. They exist in a fluid, molten state during their initial creation before cooling into a solid structure. However, the exact moment a memory is recalled, it shifts back into a malleable, molten state. It can be modified, rewritten, and recontextualized before it resets into your neural pathways. Every single time you revisit a memory with a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, licensed profesional, or self that memory becomes flexible.
To successfully replace a traumatic memory, you must actively engage those same brain regions and redirect them toward a balanced, self-actualized frame of mind. You are replacing the survival timeline with radical self-respect.
You can dismantle this cycle of traumatic feelings through consistent, targeted daily routines. Once your body has inhabited an emotion for a prolonged period, it builds a somatic tolerance to that distress, accepting it as your structural "normal." Reclaiming your equilibrium requires disrupting that tolerance.
Memories are not static archives; they behave much like glass. They exist in a fluid, molten state during their initial creation before cooling into a solid structure. However, the exact moment a memory is recalled, it shifts back into a malleable, molten state. It can be modified, rewritten, and recontextualized before it resets into your neural pathways. Every single time you revisit a memory with a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, licensed profesional, or self that memory becomes flexible.
To successfully replace a traumatic memory, you must actively engage those same brain regions and redirect them toward a balanced, self-actualized frame of mind. You are replacing the survival timeline with radical self-respect.
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About the Author:
ShawNee Janelle, B.S. is a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, Social Scientist, and Author of “The Traditional Modalities for Healing” and “Words of Power Affirmations” Vol 1-3. As the founder of Reality in Balance, a survivor-to-thriver, and an independent researcher, she is dedicated to helping others redefine balance.
ShawNee Janelle, B.S. is a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, Social Scientist, and Author of “The Traditional Modalities for Healing” and “Words of Power Affirmations” Vol 1-3. As the founder of Reality in Balance, a survivor-to-thriver, and an independent researcher, she is dedicated to helping others redefine balance.
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“Take a Deep Breath. Get Present in the Moment and Ask Yourself, What is Important at this Very Second”-Greg Mckeown
~Reality in Balance
The way I’ve always had seem to recall during the holiday season is that there are only two avenues around this time of year that a sexual abuse survivor would consider to promote wellness and remain stress-free.
1.) Proceed to all your holiday functions ill prepared as a guest, because no one has seen your darling face for a while anyways.
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2.) Steer far away from unnecessary triggers by following my 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a #Stress #Free Sexual Abuse Survivor!
2.) Steer far away from unnecessary triggers by following my 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a #Stress #Free Sexual Abuse Survivor!
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My 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a #Stress #Free Sexual Abuse Survivor is a way for you to arrive at those customary gatherings with confidence amongst family and friends. You will be visibly radiant, stronger in character, and a perseverance that one or more persons can gain a sense of balance from. My guidance during the holiday season is for you to only give your energy to those who you feel are supportive of you. While at the same time, I understand that this approach may not always be the “right” solution for the holidays like the ones that you can just readily ignore! 
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As a sexual abuse survivor, you will need to empower yourself and initiate a plan of action before the holiday season begins to roll around again. Please, do not show up like, "I’m here and just about done with this sad show of people already"! Instead, develop a plan for your visits, making it easier for you to be with the ones that you love.
A plan that you can easily develop for your traditional get-togethers should be ideas such as an arrival time, how to respond to testy inquisitors, exit strategies, or how to be cordial with certain people is THE standard blueprint to remain stress-free and confident. Start with a plan and stick to it, no matter what! One successful method to start with is your intention and focus on your feelings and ways to keep calm in a stress-free environment.
Meditation is a good source for grounding intention. It refers to a family of self-regulation practices that focus on training attention and awareness in order to bring mental processes under greater voluntary control and thereby foster general mental well-being and development in specific capacities such as calm, clarity, and concentration (Roger Walsh & Shauna L. Shapiro 2006).” I like to practice a form of meditation known as Breath Therapy to bridge my intentions and refocus back to myself.
II GET SUPPORT
My second Holiday-Wellness Tip for a Sexual Abuse Survivor is surprisingly one that is the most forgotten about. At the major or minor holiday event with relatives or friends, ensure to establish support before you attend! Trust a holiday attendee that you can speak to directly about your level of comfort in regards to whichever festivity that you guys will be a part of.
It could be your spouse, a close relative, or friend that you can confide in. Use this time to be realistic about your situation and brutally honest about how you feel. As a sexual abuse survivor, a long and triggering explanation is unnecessary, and furthermore, it isn't owed to anyone. So keep your mission short and precise. What’s more important here is to receive support, just in case the exit door becomes your haven during the holiday season.
Oh boy, there are a lot of delicate topics to go around for more than two lifetimes, but for this holiday season, do yourself a favor and take this opportunity for the perfect time to completely zone out. For the present concerns of today, sensitive topics like the “me too” movement or the never-ending sight of the zillion sex scandals should be avoided as a sexual abuse survivor at this time..
All-in-all, these subjects on television can easily lead to unavoidable triggers. Besides the mere fact that a stranger’s sexual abuse case is easily discussed out in the open during the holidays, while potentially amid a sexual victim is being insensitive to others. Do not engage in sensitive topics!
As a sexual abuse survivor, always focus on shifting your awareness from sensitive topics to a form of positivity because the holiday season is for cheer and a year of closure.
IV FOCUS on GRATITUDE
After all, the reason why we come together for the holidays is to celebrate one another. This may be difficult as a sexual abuse survivor while in the presence of unwelcoming personalities. Nevertheless, remind yourself why you have chosen to be present amongst friends and family during this time.
A good point of reference to remember is your internal guidance, which brought you to the event in the first place. Your inner guidance is the strong-willed force that is backed up with the courage to follow through. We refer to this high gravitational space as gratitude, allowing us to be with friends and family again in the physical sense, such as for the holiday season.
Never hold your breath, but always remember to breathe through all circumstances during holiday traditions. Sometimes being in crowded areas as a sexual abuse survivor, you may need a break from visiting with family and friends, and this is okay. Make an excuse to use the restroom or just step away for a little while.
Go outside and breathe slowly through your nose and out through your mouth. Take this moment to give thanks for your ability to do this. No matter the excuse, always listen to your body. During the holiday gathering, if you are experiencing a sensation of overwhelming feelings, always remember that slow and deep breathing is a technique to alleviate stressors.
So, you do not have to talk the night away at holiday visits anymore, but instead, always remain in charge with My 5 Holiday-Wellness Tips for a Sexual Abuse Survivor: (1)an unbreakable plan, (2)back up support, (3)disengaging sensitive topics, (4)focus on gratitude, and (5) controlled breathing are destined to promote balance and well-being.
☤Your Reality in Balance begins at the very moment when work is placed forth by your intent to grow and change for the betterment of self, aiding in the improvement of mankind! Balance & Peace...
About the Author:
Shaw Nee Janelle is a
- Certified Holistic Health Practitioner
- Health & Wellness Consultant
- Spiritual Healer
- Author of “The Traditional Modalities for Healing”
- Blogger
- Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com.
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"The meeting of meditative disciplines and western psychology: A mutually enriching dialogue"
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Recharge & Support Group | Discover SELF-ADVOCACY with Proactive & Declarative Language!
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PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
"You must be the change that you want to see in this world"~Anonymous
PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
"You must be the change that you want to see in this world"~Anonymous
| Declaratory, Proactive Language- Our group discussion is about how to use proactive, declarative language. This speaks to the nature of what it means to advocate for yourself. This tool may be new for you in your recovery, or it can act as a “refresher” for you right now. Either way, learning how to speak up for yourself—when you get the hang of it—feels good to the soul! | Excuses? Find Solutions- Things not working for you? Do something about it. Someone speaking to you in an unkind way? Refuse to accept it. These are the kinds of skills that are incredibly difficult to practice but are surprisingly simple to learn. |
Self-AdvocacyAs time went on, I cut ties with the people who were detrimental to me. It was easy in some respects due to the distance and space away, and for a while, I felt like a coward because I didn’t confront the issues directly. It felt like I was running away from my problems. But I was wrong. Taking control and regaining happiness can be expressed verbally and nonverbally, depending on the situation. The important factor here is to take action! Being aware of my actions, I was actually practicing self-advocacy by removing myself from the reach of the people and places that triggered me. Declare | Are there people in your life who you know aren’t good for you? Is there anyone who doesn’t support you in becoming the best version of yourself? If so, find those who honor your dreams instead. Often, bullies can be in your own family. You don’t have to cut these ties completely out of your life. An effective way forward is to educate yourself on techniques and strategies to deal with those people. Situations that magnify fear should be dealt with professionally, of course. *--->Therapeutic Self-Care |
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Who in your life does not support you?
How can you use declarative language to make that relationship comfortable for you? Take your time, paying special attention to your feelings during this reflection.
How can you use declarative language to make that relationship comfortable for you? Take your time, paying special attention to your feelings during this reflection.
About the Author:
ShawNee Janelle, B.S. is a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, Social Scientist, and Author of "The Traditional Modalities for Healing" and "Words of Power Affirmations" Vol 1-3. As the founder of Reality in Balance, a survivor-to-thriver, and an independent researcher, she is dedicated to helping others redefine balance.
ShawNee Janelle, B.S. is a Certified Holistic Health Consultant, Social Scientist, and Author of "The Traditional Modalities for Healing" and "Words of Power Affirmations" Vol 1-3. As the founder of Reality in Balance, a survivor-to-thriver, and an independent researcher, she is dedicated to helping others redefine balance.