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Seeking help can turn the most self-assured, direct person into a “worry-hog”. We may feel uncomfortable and as a burden to others, or experiencing a sense of stagnation from past mistakes in our relationships. Certainly, these aspects are what has transpired inside of our head. One would believe to think to ask for assistance in order to “by-pass” such misery, but following through with confidence when help is needed is tough for almost everyone. Asking for help may be difficult, but so are most things worth doing.
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1)Fear of Being a Burden
First of all, asking of others could lead to burden if you’re out of practice of doing so. You could be fearful that asking for help will take something away from the helper, or assume they will see the task as a heavy load. As one should know that most individuals that are secure, love helping others.
According to Dr. Hendriksen, Ph.D., “the most primitive part of the brain- the same reward pathway activated by food and sex-lights up in response to altruistic giving.” Not only does helping bring strength to social ties, but it also allows the helpers to feel good about themselves. If this is not the case for you, & the helper is actually over-burdened or are too busy, graciously trust him/her to communicate as so & find someone else to assist you with your need. |
2) Past Mistakes
Depending on one’s level of consciousness, their reverence of duties is seasonal. In this regard, a person has lessons that will be either unknowingly bypassed or have substantially completed, like a great cycle or continuance. A person’s circumstance is led by personal choice, & the other is brought upon based on outside influences. Every path is an opportunity to educate ourselves on. These are opportunities to internally grow & improve during each turn of the wheel. Healing is essential in order to release from the bondage of past mistakes so that we may receive help from those around us.
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The fear of admitting to our past mistakes is particularly common when more than enough of turmoil adhere to cause friction. An influx in social status, economic plans, or issues within personal relationships can feel like you're failing or incapable of addressing daily conjunctures. Sometimes when we try to control every situation that rapidly emits, it turns out not to be the better approach for us.
In this way, we can ensure a sense of balance before asking someone to assist with our need. Past mistakes will seem like “water underneath the bridge”, allowing a fluidly, positive flow of success in our life by rebuilding a peaceful bond between new & old friends. Do not avoid past mistakes. Actively forgive yourself.
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Defining & asking for what you want is necessary before the requirement of others can step in. So, if it’s the fear of being a burden, unresolved issues, or the worry of appearing weak- practice being acutely specific in regards to your need(s). This sounds easy, but for many people, it’s not. We may know what we want at this very minute, but have no clue of the bigger picture. Sometimes we focus on the surface of the ocean, not realizing what’s above or beneath it. This can cause unsettled waves of destructive around us. An approach to dismantling the fear of asking for help is ideal as you may know by this point. Make a list of what it is that you are seeking, noting specific qualities, ideas & more. The act of writing lists prompts us to tune in to what it is that we need, enforcing our true intent. Take time, and be honest in every situation, including everything that is most important first. We can direct our mind this way to consciously create the circumstances we desire. Awareness by Light... |
Shaw Nee Janelle is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner,Health & Wellness Consultant, Author of “The Traditional Modalities for Healing”, Blogger & Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com. In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Affirmations, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, Sexual Abuse Awareness and more. She also loves travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.