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Can Childhood Trauma Affect Your Health As an Adult?

11/6/2018

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"It is Easier to Build up a Child than it is to Repair an Adult"-Healthy Place

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​At this very moment, your health and lifestyle are directly guided by the growth and development stemmed from childhood teachings and observation. Both positive or negative have an enormous influence on future lifelong health with the right set of circumstances or a callous victimization mindset.   
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​Researchers from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have found that the more stressors that an individual have experienced in their childhood are more likely to develop physical and emotional ailments in their adulthood. Traumatic episodes such as sexual abuse, mental illness in a parent, divorce, neglect, and domestic violence are linked to chronic related stress and obstacles. Chronic related stressors in the form of obesity and/or heart disease are responsible for a premature death that becomes a reality sooner than later.  
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As of recently and further acclaimed by Dr. Nadine Burke MD, who founded and is the charge of the Center for Youth Wellness in San Francisco, CA has spent over the years treating chronic stress and increasing awareness of childhood traumatic effects on long-term health, medically identified as Adverse Childhood Experiences. Here you may read the full extent of these findings at NY Times, or 2015 Ted Talk.







  • ACES does have a lasting outcome on your HEALTH: diabetes, depression, STD’s, heart disease, cancer, stroke, COPD, suicide attempts, obesity, broken bones are the physical imbalances that will appear.
 
  • ACES have a lasting effect in your BEHAVIOR: alcoholism, smoking, drug use, promiscuity, violence, mood swings.
 
  • In the LIFE POTENTIAL sector of ACES it  accedes to a lasting effect concerning graduation rates, academic achievements, lost time from work, and/or goal orientations.  ​

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How Can We Prevent These Reoccurring Circumstances in Our Families?



Men/Women-*Before Making the Choice to Give Birth and Life:


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  • Assure safe, stable, nurturing relationships and atmosphere for all children. 
         This can have a positive influence on a broad range
         of health conditions and on the development skills that
​         will guide children to reach their absolute potential.


  • Classes and/or books regarding early childhood development; parenting courses, parenting training programs, violence prevention course.  
 
  • Sufficient income support
 
  •  High-quality childcare
 
  •  Mental illness, and substance abuse treatment
 
  • Parent support programs for teens and teen pregnancy prevention programs will guide you to form conscious choices in life. ​



​Conditions that Correspond to Body System Functions and Organs:

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As stated by Naturopaths, most men and women function on an energy level full of emotional imbalance in life and sometimes are inclined to exist in one or two emotions that are present in their overall image, like anger or jealousy.

Many emotions that prohibit growth come from things that happened to us in the past that we have not faced or let go of. People walk through life hiding their true emotions to secure their feelings of safety because they have been taught by others to not show emotions that others consider inappropriate (Akua, 2010).

In Holistic Health, we relate our biochemical function made up of “emotions” to the effects of the body (brain matter). As you will see below how both positive and negative emotions lead to the functionality of our Organs.

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Positive Emotions + Organs =
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  • Honor, Joy, and Relief Generate the Heart
  • Peace, Gentleness, and Agreeability Generate the Kidneys
  • Kindness, Compassion, and Sympathy Regenerate the Liver
  • Cooperation, Righteousness, and Victory Regenerate the Lungs
                 (Akua, 2010)

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Negative Emotions + Organs =
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  • Stress, Anxiety causes constriction and damages the Intestines and the Stomach
  • Anger, Abuse, Frustration, Irritability, Jealously, Obsession, and Resentment can damage the Liver
  • Excessive Sadness, Apathy, Boredom, Impatience, Depression, Despair, Despondency, Cruelty can injure the Heart and make the Blood Toxic
  • Panic, Shock, Compulsion can injure the Spleen
  • Fear, Anxiety, Confusion, Discouragement can injure the Kidneys
  • Worry, Grief, Sorrow, Guilt, Denial can injure Lungs and Cervical Nerves
    (Akua, 2010)
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​Once emotions are expressed, a healthy person is able to move forward without damaging their physical bodies with emotional baggage (Akua, 2010). Think about it, these individuals are searching for acceptance of their feelings of love and security in order to rebuild self-esteem. They are also searching to find a way to express their deep, inner emotions in a safe and supportive environment.
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It begins with you. Commence with a greater sense of awareness of the inspiring attributes or deafening ailments which were passed on in mirror images. With this information, childhood trauma does not have to comprise your continued growth as an adult in an unhealthy manner.
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​Sources-
“Natural Health and Wellness: The Consultant Manual”, by Dr. Akua Gray
“How Childhood Trauma Can Affect Your Long-Term Health”, NY Times
“Adverse Childhood Experiences”, CDC

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Shaw Nee Janelle is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Health & Wellness Consultant, Author of  "The Traditional Modalities for Healing”, Blogger & Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com. In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, and Sexual Abuse Awareness. She also loves travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.

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Recharge & Support Group | Discover SELF-ADVOCACY with Proactive & Declarative Language!

8/28/2018

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PROACTIVE LANGUAGE



"You must be the change that you want to see in this world"~Anonymous 

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Declaratory,
Proactive Language-​

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Our Group Discussion is about how to use Proactive,Declaratory Language. This speaks to the nature of what it means to advocate for yourself. This tool may be new for you in your recovery or can act as a “refresher” for you right now. Either way, learning how to speak up for yourself, when you get the hang of it, feels good to the soul!

Excuses? Find
 Solutions-

Things not working for you? Do something about it. Someone speaking to you in an unkind way? Refuse to accept it. These are the kinds of skills that are incredibly difficult to do but are surprisingly simple to learn.
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*--->Daily Affirmations
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Self-Advocacy

​As time went on, I cut ties with the people who were detrimental to me. It was easy, in some respects due to the distance and space away, and for a while, I felt like a coward because I didn’t confront the issues directly.

It felt like I was running away from my problems. But I was wrong. Taking control and regaining happiness can be understood verbally and non-verbally depending on the situation. The important factor here is to take action!


Without being aware of my actions, I was practicing self-advocacy by removing myself out of the reach of the people & places that triggered me.

Declare
SUPPORT ​​

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​​Are there people who you know that aren’t good for you in your life? Is there anyone who doesn’t support you in becoming the best version of yourself? If so, find those who honor your dreams instead.



​ Often, bullies can be in your own family. You don’t have to cut these ties completely out of your life.  An effective way is to educate yourself on techniques & strategies to deal with those people. Situations that magnitude fear should be dealt professionally, of course.​

*--->Therapeutic Self-Care 

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Who in your life does not Support you?
​How can you use Declaratory Language to make that relationship comfortable for you? Take your time paying special attention to your feelings during this reflection.




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About the Author-

Shaw Nee Janelle is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Health & Wellness Consultant, Author of  "The Traditional Modalities for Healing”, Blogger & Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com. In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, and Sexual Abuse Awareness. She also loves travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.
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Recharge & Support Group  for Sexual Abuse Survivors

8/21/2018

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"I am a free spirit. Some don't like that but that's who I am"
Princess Diana



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FaceBook Group Week Discussion ~ SUPPORT-

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Thank You for your Courage & Will in Supporting Sexual Abuse Survivors!

Your participation to grow & heal is presently directed towards an abundance of wisdom for yourself & those who will follow in through your footsteps, so be brave!

Our environment can affect the things that we are sometimes unaware of. What stands out the most to me is the people surrounding us who have our back….


It takes a village to raise a child, right? We are more trusting of others & better with a community of support that surrounds us. When I decided to begin my recovery as a child sexual abuse survivor, it wasn’t long before I decided to find Support during the processes of healing.


If a Supportive Community doesn’t exist, you can create it. My first discussion as a group is a challenge for anyone to list & identify the support networks that may already be established & aim to discover others that may be out of your comfort range.
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My Support System Included:
  • TREM Support Group (Trauma, Recovery, Empowerment, Model)
  • Educational Support
  • Support Group Advocate
  • Friends
  • Online Community Support
  • Spiritual Support

What kinds of Support System can you identify in your own Life? List the most apparent ones as well as some that might be obscure. Professional mentors are a great source of Support that is frequently overlooked. A Support Team is extremely necessary. You will be surprised.

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About the Author
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Shaw Nee Janelle is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Health & Wellness Consultant, Author of  "The Traditional Modalities for Healing”, Blogger & Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com. In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, and Sexual Abuse Awareness. She also loves travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.
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5 Tips for Protecting Your Children | from All Forms of Abuse

6/27/2018

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❖ Protecting Your Children | from All Forms of Abuse


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​“Too much love never spoils children. Children become spoiled when we substitute presents for presence”.
​-Anthony Witham

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➠​Let’s Talk!


​➠ *1 in 3 Women & 1 in 6 Men are sexually abused before the age of 18. ​

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❖ Here we have laid out five straightforward ways to protect your child from all forms of abuse. The five tips for protecting children from all forms of abuse will seem like common-sense knowledge, but the statistics which reflect child sexual abuse today show negligence in this area. Due to stigma & trauma or both, people are not aware of these risks & how they can affect communities as a whole. When you ignore common-sense information, it does not mean that abuse or its awareness will fade away.

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 ❖ ​5 Tips for Protecting Your Children | from All Forms of Abuse


1) ➠ Talk with, NOT to, him/her:
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An on-going dialogue, not just one single event about their safety as children, will shape critical thinking skills for your child. How to begin the conversation?​ CLICK HERE to read “A Parent’s Guide to Talking to Children About Safety.”

​2) ➠ Start Early & Speak Often: 
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What is too early to speak with your child about abuse? Every child’s stage of development will be different. So, use everyday situations to discuss safety, & allow space for children to ask questions. Click Here for “The Underwear Rule” & ​Tips from the U.S Department of Justice.


3) ➠ Watch for Changes in Your Child’s Behavior: 
If your child is reluctant about going to certain places or with certain people, ask questions. Notice their behavior after spending time alone outside of the home or with another individual before & after visits. Always be aware of the individuals that your child is developing a relationship with to ensure that it’s positive & inspiring.

4) ➠ Educate Yourself & Community: 
Know the Statistics – 1 in 3 Women and 1 in 6 boys are affected
by
sexual abuse.
​Learn more information here @
https://www.rainn.org/statistics.
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5) ➠ Remove Fearful Tactics w/Parenting: 
As a parent, bullying a child to talk will only constrict their learning & coping abilities. Gentle reminders that the child can speak about anything, & parent(s) are present & explicitly here for the child. It is highly advisable to build a strong relationship with children, with no excuses. Children learn from what they observe in their environments as parenting, not by what they are taught.



​❖Relationships have the potential to provide both joy and sorrow. Unfortunately, there can be many sources of relationship pain that stem from unprotected children. Protecting children from all forms of abuse begins with you and me. We must take responsibility now to understand the duties that come with protecting children from abuse before it begins. 

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Sources: 
"How Can I Protect My Child From Sexual Assault?"
"Sacred Woman", by Queen Afua  
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SEXUAL ABUSE AWARENESS | ONE in 4 GIRLS, ONE in 6 BOYS | Sexually Abused

11/22/2017

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"So, ​you ask me, why so many
​Sexual Abuse Allegations today, Really?!"
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- Shaw Nee Janelle

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DUH, See the FACTS for yourself below--->
​Source:The Children's Assessment Center


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​​There is no escaping from the growing outpour of women and men, alas revealing their past and on-going suffering from being a Sexual Abuse SURVIVOR- bravely, and one-by-one, new revelations of pedophilia are being exposed every day on social media outlets.  I am grateful for those stepping out of FEAR in this new era of technology!!! Today’s social media platforms can be an outlet to express yourself when people around us are unable to just LISTEN!

​I say expose them all (
sex predators), and this includes family members as well too!! It does not matter if it has been five, ten, thirty years or more because now is the time to HEAL and Grow!


 

​With that being said, there may be confusion for some people as to why victims all of a sudden, are “just now speaking out” about their sexual abuse claims from the past. 

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​So, do me a favor and shut up and just LISTEN! ​
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a survivor of child sexual abuse, and every survivor has a direct and explicit story. The energy that encompasses sexual abuse is draining, wicked, and low, I soon found out. I also very quickly realized if I wanted to overcome my trauma, healing would be my primary focus. This does not happen overnight.

​Therefore, there isn't a right or wrong way to talk about what has been hidden from our family and friends! We hold on to such secrets to protect the people around us until we find the courage to talk about it. 

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​It may be because our parents have their own separate on-going, unresolved issues, leaving it difficult to communicate with them. Being honest with myself, I have to admit, was one of the most unfavorable transformations that I had to face in my life thus far. 
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​ The incredulity around survivors of sexual abuse will not be accepted as long as I am here!! I will not tolerate your idealism on what it's like to be a SURVIVOR of sexual abuse if you haven’t experienced this trauma yourself firsthand!


1) Survivors of sexual abuse won't need an “I’m sorry” reply from you.
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2) We have become proficient in self-love and self-care! Because we place ourselves first.

3) We have developed the ability to turn away from the indulgence in drugs, alcohol, and all other forms of addiction.

4) We know how to recognize all manifestations of abuse within both children and adults because of our own experience with abuse or neglect! ​

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For the people who are still in denial about what has been replaying on the nightly news channel about the on-going sexual abuse allegations-


​According to adult retrospective studies, 1 and 4 women and 1 and 6 men were sexually abused before the age of 18. This means there are more than 42million adult survivors of child sexual abuse in the U.S.

​73% of child victims do not tell anyone about the abuse for at least one year. 45% do not tell anyone for at least 5 years. Some disclose never- children of every gender, race, ethnicity, background, social-economic status and family structure are at risk. No child is immune.

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Shaw Nee Janelle is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Health & Wellness Consultant, Author of  "The Traditional Modalities for Healing”, Blogger & Owner of.realitynconsciousness.com. In her blogs, she enjoys writing inspirational tips on Holistic Health, Self-Care, Afrikan Spirituality, and Sexual Abuse Awareness. She also loves travel, fitness, reading, and creating new vegan recipes.

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